10 Questions Adult Daughters Should Ask Their Mom
My mom (like most mothers) has been the most influential person in all my life's decisions. She has not only supported me and my dreams, but she has also been a mother to my friends and thousands of other kids during her career as an educator. The lady has been retired for years and she still finds her way back into the lives of those who need her! She is strong and graceful at the same time and I strive to possess these qualities. With that being said, I had to formally interview her and dig a little deeper than our daily conversations!
I got this idea from Judith Newman's article 10 Questions to Ask Your Mother Now I got a tad creative and switched up some of the questions, but I think this is great for any adult daughter that wants to pick their mom's brain. These are my mother's responses!
1. What’s the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?
"Been a little bit more organized, even though I like my spontaneity"
2. Why did you choose to be with my father?
"Honestly, I didn't choose him, he was chosen for me. God sent him to me because he wouldn’t be the one that I would choose for myself. I wanted a Rich man and God sent me Handsome one instead, just kidding haha! But in all seriousness, He was chosen for me"
3. In what ways do you think I’m like you? And not like you?
"You are like me when it comes to Fashion for sure! You wont spend alot but you still want quality pieces. You love to travel just like me too! But it's all because I taught you these things or better yet, it was/is how we bond/bonded. Also you saw me constantly working and moving which helped you to be the go-getter you've always been"
"You are not like me in other ways because I feel like you should have been my brother's kid. You are just like him. You're boisterous and you have to have the last word. Once your teeth are on it, it has to go your way. You're feisty. I only get like that when my children are being threatened haha"
4. Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?
"No, you know all the stories and we talk often about everything"
5. Do you think it’s easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?
"I don't think neither is harder than the other, but they sure are different. Foundations are the same no matter the season. You rise to the occasion. Mothers adapt. But I am definitely grateful for raising you in the time that I did"
6. Is there anything you regret not having asked your parents?
"Yes, I didn't ask enough questions about my father. I'd like to know how much we are alike. But when I was growing up my mom was so powerful that I didn't even think of him or to ask questions. None of us had fathers so it was normal not to discuss details about them. I wish I knew how they met and all those details. They could have help me grow as an adult and know more about myself"
7. What’s the best thing I can do for you right now?
"To be all the way independent, so much so that you are doing your own thing successfully even though I would still worry but I want you to be able to live YOUR life"
8. Is there anything that you wish had been different between us―or that you would still like to change?
"No, I don't believe in shoulda, woulda, coulda. We went through certain periods for a reason so I wouldn't change anything"
9. When did you realize you were no longer a child?
"When my mother passed away in 2015. Even as an adult I still saw myself as a child. I had to seriously grow up after that. Before that, I never thought I was ready; I just lived"
10. What do wish you would have done before you became a mother?
"Save more money"
This interview gave me LIFE! Throughout my life, I have asked my mom tons of questions (probably some that drove her crazy) but to ask things with purpose for deeper understanding was liberating a way! Give it a try you guys! You may learn something about your mom that she wouldn't say otherwise.